maggie (or marissa): fortysomething, indo-trini canadian, genderfluid asexual coming to you straight from the heart of smoked salmon country using tag #usermarmalade
DAILYFLICKS 10K CELEBRATION → FAVORITE 80S MOVIE PER MEMBER THE BREAKFAST CLUB (1985) - pluto (@rambeaus)
You see us as you want to see us… In the simplest terms, in the most convenient definition. You see us as a brain, an athelete, a basketcase, a princess and a criminal. Does that answer your question? Sincerely yours, the Breakfast Club.
the thought I have in regards to fashion; as pristine as i may ever get after any kind of leveling up, never will I be caught using shit that isnt as tough as me. if I end up owning a vineyard, I want my style to be looking like I grew the fruit from my own two hands, and I want my demeanor to suggest I was part of every single process of making the wine. and I want my essence to suggest I was there making sure everyone who helped was fed in my kitchen. I like the look of formidable love, I love the physicality of things.
youtubers love to say “i hope i’m pronouncing that correctly” while recording themselves in a video that they upload to the internet, which they have access to
Don’t leave this in the tags!! They’re good points! An attempt is better than nothing!
It’s one thing to listen to a correct pronunciation. It’s another to actually have your mouth form the words, especially when you’re using a sound you don’t normally use in your native language.
Maybe they’re not saying “I didn’t look up the actual pronunciation and I’m just winging it.” Maybe it’s “I looked it up and it uses a sound that I don’t use in my day to day speech and I don’t think I did it quite right but I tried.”
And sometimes, there aren’t sufficient resources to teach you the correct pronunciation! Sometimes you’ll get bot-made videos that contradict each other.
This this this this. As someone who struggles to pronounce a couple of words I use fairly often my FIRST LANGUAGE, thanks to those particular sounds just being difficult shapes for me to string together coherently, I am constantly afraid of fucking up words in other languages or even just with roots in other languages.
It’s one thing to not even try, but the “I hope I’m doing this correctly” isn’t always “I’m hoping I can just wing this word with whatever I think it’s supposed to sound like,” a lot of times it “okay so I’ve looked it up and tried it a few times so I’m really hoping its coming out right, but I’m not used enough to the language to really be sure .”
Languages are fucking DIFFICULT for a lot of people. Not just the repeating/speaking part, but also the ability to HEAR and RECOGNIZE the patterns and sounds.
Dear menstruating people: when you hit your forties you may notice that your eyesight gets blurry whenever it’s that time of the month. This is apparently normal – all the estrogen elasticizes your corneas. Of course perimenopause may also cause blurry vision for the opposite reason. Anyhow my point is: nobody ever told me this and I was mildly freaked out because I’ve never experienced it before.
My two other pieces of advice related to menses:
- if you bleed heavily and constantly that is NOT NORMAL no matter how many medical professionals brush you off. I got an IUD after nearly passing out from blood loss one particularly bad time and it’s changed my life after nearly twenty years of untreated menorrhagia.
- if you have really SUPER bad cramps that do not abate despite OTC painkillers/rest/heating pads, you probably have a burst appendix. Get thee to the ER instead of just ‘powering through it’ for three days
you had me until that last part, there are many reasons cramps/stomach or abdominal pain can be really bad other than a burst appendix including constipation.
the biggest difference between menstrual cramps and appendix pain is that menstrual cramps will grow and wane, i.e. come in “waves”. appendix pain is constant. it also tends to be localized to the lower right part of your abdomen while cramps can be spread out.
but yeah when in doubt see a doctor. there’s ways to help severe menstrual pain even if it’s “just” cramps.
dude i’m not a doctor but that is literally what happened to me. i’m not trying to say it’s a universal experience lol just something people might wanna be aware of especially since I nearly died for my oversight
The tree of the leaves it's made from and the "tofu" itself is called "immortal" due to a legend of one village struggling through a famine, and an immortal guiding them to use a particular tree's leaves to make this "tofu" to survive. It is a traditional folk food found throughout south China.
All this time, I thought I needed your help getting him to fall in love with me. But I have realized what I need is your help getting him to fall in love with you.